Discussion Is it gay?

Exactly I'm not talking about the submission side right at this moment I'm basically saying there is more to bdsm then bondage discipline dominance submission sadism masochism that's merely the principals
But while I've been involved in bdsm for years and years now I'm actually more focused in a community within the bdsm culture that crosses with another lifestyle but still uses bdsm as a backbone so my ideas are probably different from the average person involved in bdsm

 

nay, I'm in self-imposed celibacy, all this shit goes to the second circle

 

Woah props
I couldn't do that no way

 

We shall drag you down to the depths of poverty!

 

I'm already broke kek

 

So, it's like an enlightened version if bdsm? But let me put this out there, control is an illusion. You can balance things but no one "controls." A robot can still do things you don't tell it to do.

 

We shall drag your mentality further down to the pits of despair!

 

"enlightened" hardly - but if you don't like bdsm this would open a whole new can of worms

Exactly bdsm Runs on consent and safe words the sub is giving up control in certain areas of play willinging it's not bdsm if the sub doesn't feel comfortable to use safe words

 

Haha, can of worms haha. I don't know why that just made me laugh.

I see. Sounds more like intimate rough housing rather than bonding to me. Then again, you have more experience than me when it comes to that. I'm very much a loner.

 

Hu Hu +.+ but it would it's very controversial bananana

Besides from the other lifestyle I mentioned but avoiding can of worms about sub Dom is probably the most raw relationship you'll have. It's pretty hard to put into words but like both sides is literally giving the other such a high level of Intimacy and trust

 

It's only controversial in my eyes because some pain needs to exist, right?

I'm pretty sure there are way more other activities that can give just as much trust or intimacy. But, bdsm is more fun to talk about anyways.

 

Noooo I MEAN MY MAIN LIFESTYLE/COMMUNITY it's super controversial bananana

Noooo way like you can get to know a person play monopoly but I know it sounds weird but say you're doing body worship right? That's just so raw and intimate and gah you're just like fully in the moment together
Also after care is so personal and raw

 

Oh banana. I didn't know banana.

Is that really how you connect with someone, really? Not a simple touch? A slow caress of the face? No? Ok. Even tending to someone's well being can be intimate. I'm just saying, there are many ways to become intimate with someone. But there is only one objective to the SEX. BAHBIES! banana

 

Pretty sure that's bonkers.

also why you both say banana?

 

Hu Hu +.+

Are you saying bdsm doesn't involve that? Because that's berry Berry wrong
Bdsm isn't just about sex it's not necessarily about getting off but obviously it's a turn on to the participants
It can't really be put into words

I'm a part of the ddlg lifestyle/community and it's the same in the sense it can't be described and is even more complex