Life is full of choices. The only thing that is guaranteed is death. So make your life how you see fit no one else can do it. How or why I chose doesn't matter. I just just chose my own life.
Shyness is born from fear. Nearly all negative emotion comes from fear. To say fear is not the main issue is plain silly. Because, you still haven't done the leap of faith yet, haven't you?
I just wish I could go out and talk to girls like that.. Just "Hi what's your name, how are you" and so on but its impossible out at least very hard and unlikely.
I will try but time passes very fast. I cannot focus on one thing because it will be too late for others. And I cannot really do anything properly wihout focusing so...
Start now, there is no better way to start than to start now. As for how to do it, grab a notebook. Write down what time you go to sleep and wake up. From there, write the hours you work from, write the hours you do chores and do that for each day. Once your done you will see how many hours you actually have for yourself.
Even through out an entire week, 6 hours is a good amount of time to just devote to yourself. For those hours that you have to yourself learn to relieve your stresses and calm yourself.
The biggest amount of changes don't usually come from the biggest amount of time you have necessarily. For instance, when I was in band, my instructor would always say, practice for thirty minutes. Not, for hours, but minutes. The unique thing about humans is that we are very adaptable, but we need to take a little bit of time adjusting.. Just take a little bit of time, you don't need hours. Just minutes to set yourself straight.
Who says to fake it? There is a way to be positive when you are negative. But it comes from learning to calm down and learning to think positive. It's not faking when it actually becomes real is it?
The point I'm trying to make is that you haven't tried anything. If you did, then you would have felt the sting of rejection. But you haven't, that's the point I'm trying to say is that, without effort you can't accomplish anything, let alone changing your attitude.
And this is why you are foolish. Who are you to make decisions for her? If she wants to say yes, why deny her? In my case I said I'm not available. But since you are, your being foolish.
We do not have basically any contract.. Last time I wrote to her in fb was over month ago and it was awkward as always. Before? Few years of no contract. Why would she
You do realize the more you speak the more insight I actually obtain right? You got to learn to move on. Your blinded by something that isn't there and in doing so, you don't allow others that actually might want to hang around you have a chance.
Cause you don't work on it. It's simple cause and effect. You don't give yourself respect, no one is going to give you respect. Instead of trying to explain to me your situation, which I pretty much got already, explain to me what you don't understand ho to work on.
Cause you don't work on it. It's simple cause and effect. You don't give yourself respect, no one is going to give you respect. Instead of trying to explain to me your situation, which I pretty much got already, explain to me what you don't understand how to work on.
Cause you don't work on it. It's simple cause and effect. You don't give yourself respect, no one is going to give you respect. Instead of trying to explain to me your situation, which I pretty much got already, explain to me what you don't understand how to work on.
For example a situation I saw in a bus. I was sitting on back seat, among with 4 random people. The bus was quite crowdy and we had surprisingly good time exchanging jokes and funny remarks. Suddenly the guy next to me started chatting with a girl one seat away. By the end he had her phone number, her place and they were set up to meet each other. I put myself in the skin of that guy and made simulation. I'd not even talk to her, feeling that wall restraining me from doing it. Now how to get over the wall
First off, why bother with something you can't do? You know what he did? He played off of the charm of the jokes and chatting between everyone right? Not only does that allow for people to interact, it's a good way to charm others. It's not HOW he did it. It's WHAT he did that your impressed with. Plus if he got rejected the jokes would have been a good remedy.
It's not about getting closer. That's your mistake that your making. It's about charming the other person not to like you, but to get interested in you. And since you keep saying you have no self worth, no one will get interested in you and your back into the spiral of doubt from the very beginning of the conversation.
Okay but this is not only the cause. It's the effect, how do you think this self lack of worth appeared when it comes to relationships? Because I always crashed into wall of indifference. Or even hostility. It's not like I have never talked a girl.
I don't think your understanding, or maybe you do but your denying the point. Your in a Spiral Effect. This is not just about cause or effect anymore. We are talking about your very health itself. You are very desperate. That's not good. This attitude affects everything you do. And it shows, the way you present yourself and talk. You have to take control of your emotions. You are not an animal. So stop acting like one. Your intellectual, so start using it. You can get over this, but the only one who doesn't let it go is your emotions. So stop letting them control you.
You just gotta learn to be quick witted. There are way too many situations where you don't know what to say, but you have to say something. Gotta learn to talk from the heart.
There is no practice for these types of things, you either do or don't. I mean it doesn't hurt to practice some topics in mind, but for going back and forth, there is no practice.
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